loneliness has become a hot topic in recent years, because many countries have entered the society of old age for many complex reasons, Many old people like their own
the causes of loneliness
emotional lack
disappointment is inevitable in all mature interpersonal relationships. Everyone should learn to face disappointment. But why can’t someone do it? Psychotherapist MO & middot; Le’a runs a psychological cafe in Paris. She explains: & quot; The culprit is this complaint: ' Nobody likes me '& quot; In her opinion, such complaints always come from those who lack love in childhood, or at least feel that they don’t get enough love. She thinks: & quot; No parents don’t love their children, but unfortunately, many parents don’t know how to express their love& quot;
doting
what about doting? Spoiled children will have the same consequences: children who grow up in a spoiled environment are used to being spoiled. When they grow up, they will ask others twice as much and feel that everyone should be kind to him& quot; Their boundless demand for love and insatiable, often scare away the people around them. Of course, not surprisingly, other people’s reaction convinced them: & quot; No one likes me& quot;
narcissism
is not used to finding reasons on yourself, but always blames others for not paying more to yourself, which will form a vicious circle. Lebasty thinks: & quot; They explained everything from their own point of view& quot; Behind this self-centered, there is a deep narcissism and excessive sensitivity. Ellie & middot; For them, being loved always means: & quot; Favorite & quot;. She said: & quot; What they seek is not love, but love& quot; In order to protect themselves, such people often unconsciously blame others for their experiences, just as Le Basti said: & quot; It’s easier to blame others for not loving yourself than to blame yourself& quot;
Lack of self-confidence
feel lonely because of lack of self-confidence
keep a bad and appropriate distance from your surroundings (& quot; Philosophical factors
in the works of aesthetics, sociology, biology, psychology and other disciplines & quot; Yes & quot; Find countless relevant discussions. Specifically, it is also a state of mind that can not see others get better. The reason is that it has not established a trust relationship with the people around it (or established its own communication trust system). Others say that it is normal to benefit oneself at the expense of others; It’s bad to see others at the expense of others.
these are all the disadvantages brought by long-term loneliness. Loneliness does have a great impact on people’s life and health. Short-term loneliness may be to regulate mood, but long-term loneliness without communication and contact with others will become a kind of injury. Let’s see what harm will long-term loneliness do?
What are the hazards of long-term loneliness
1, loss of self and reduction of self-confidence.
loneliness will cause harm to mental health. Because of the lack of participation in some social activities, I feel that I have little value and will deny myself in my heart, so it is easy to produce some negative emotions. This change is not conducive to mental health.
2. Affect people’s judgment.
a long-term disengagement