people become normal when they are middle-aged, old at the top and small at the bottom, bitter and tired. In order to
, in fact, once a person reaches middle age, the following four signs indicate that he is getting stronger!
first: more and more silent, but not depressed.
the reason why a person is silent is not that he has no words in his heart, but that he doesn’t want to speak. Understand & ldquo; Keep your mouth & rdquo;, What should be said and what should not be said.
speaking is an art. Really wise people always speak selectively. Silence is not to sink, not to let everything go, but to make your heart quiet, strong and bear the pain of life alone.
silence is preparation before outbreak, not & ldquo; Die in silence & rdquo;. A middle-aged man can do his own things quietly and do things without surprise. No matter how ups and downs, he can deal with them calmly, that is, his heart is becoming stronger.
only those who are not strong in heart can shout at anything, pour bitter water everywhere, look for emotional sustenance and hope to get sympathy from others.
second: understand that there is room and gain.
really powerful people don’t just get it, but give it away. Middle aged people always have too many troubles. If they don’t give up, it’s a burden and will become a heart disease. And feelings, in the most vulnerable time, the itch of seven years and the pain of ten years are rolled up. If you don’t give up your emotional irritability, you are likely to live a noisy life, and divorce if you can’t live.
giving up is a kind of wisdom. It is to forget everything in the past and not let those & ldquo; Old millet and rotten Sesame & rdquo; Oppress in the heart, clean up the memory in time, forget the painful and remember the happy.
people are middle-aged. People who know how to give up and get have learned to cherish, put down, forget and what life needs. Everything is clearer, rather than living in a muddle.
third: indifferent in heart, you can really & ldquo; Put down & rdquo;.
competitive, it’s better to step back. It’s better to endure for a while and be calm. The real happy life is to be indifferent to your aspirations, put down your desires and learn to enjoy the happiness in front of you.
people in middle age should not be as impetuous as when they were young. They should think twice and strive for progress in stability. The harder you pursue, the more hopeless you feel.
you know, & ldquo; Fight if you don’t fight & rdquo;. Being a man is & ldquo; No desire is just & rdquo;. If you put down fame and wealth, you will no longer worry about your status; If you put down money, you will know how to cherish the existing money. Everything is enough and you will not aim too high.
you know, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment; Stand high and fall hard. Only by letting nature take its course can we become a person calmly. Although it’s nameless and unprofitable, it’s easy to live and can do & ldquo; A sure bet & rdquo;.
fourth: life is flat and the state of mind is very good.
really powerful people can be calm no matter how much ups and downs they experience. The environment is born by the heart. Maintaining an ordinary heart means a good state of mind and pleasing to the eye. In middle age, people have experienced many things. If they are still impatient, it is often & ldquo; Haste makes waste;, Let yourself fall into the dilemma of too slow progress and unwilling to step back. Mentality determines fate. Only with a gentle state of mind can we have an insight into everything. Like a bystander, we can look at ourselves from different angles, find our own happiness and avoid unpleasant pain. There is a & ldquo; Eliminate the false and preserve the true & rdquo; The process of.
people in middle age feel that everything is not going well, which shows that you don’t understand the rules of society; No matter how smart and capable you are, no matter how good your background is, if you don’t know how to be a man and do things, you will fail in the end.
people want to become strong in middle age. On the one hand, ability is another important aspect & ldquo; Mentality & rdquo;, If you know how to behave, you can do well in the social torrent.
Mental health care
middle-aged people are the pillar of society. They have large tasks and heavy responsibilities. Especially today’s middle-aged people aged 40 ~ 50 suffer many hardships in the process of growth, so they have poor physical quality and many inner troubles. Therefore, maintaining the health of middle-aged people should be guaranteed by legislation and policies[ 2]
1. Act according to your ability. Have a correct understanding and estimation of your physical strength and ability. Don’t impose overload tasks on yourself. Do your best and act according to your ability. Many middle-aged intellectuals in the field of science and technology are full of the spirit of fighting without fear of fatigue and continuous operation, but they lack logistical guarantees such as nutrition and rest. As a result, they become ill from overwork, die prematurely, and die before their ambition is paid, causing heavy losses to their families and society. It is estimated that the average life expectancy of middle-aged intellectuals in Beijing is 58 years, which is 10 years less than the total average life expectancy of 68 years. This serious reality should attract the attention of society and individuals. Therefore, middle-aged people should avoid overload operation.
2. Middle aged people should have higher self-cultivation, be self-centered, avoid extravagance, be reasonable and aboveboard. The ancients said, & ldquo; A gentleman is open, but a villain is often sad& rdquo; Good conduct is good for maintaining psychological balance. We should also be good at self adjustment.
3. Cultivate temperament. Piano, chess, calligraphy and painting can cultivate temperament, enrich hobbies and spiritual life, and be beneficial to health. Only by having a rest can we work better. Noble, elegant and active rest should be a necessary part of life.
4. For relaxation techniques, intense activities and continuous fatigue, learn relaxation techniques to facilitate rest and sleep. Qigong, Taijiquan, self-discipline training and relaxation can help eliminate fatigue and tension.
Diet recipe
fresh mixed three skins: 200g watermelon skin, 200g cucumber skin and 200g winter melon skin. Scrape off the waxy outer skin of watermelon skin, the fluffy outer skin of winter melon skin, blanch it with cucumber skin in a boiling water pot, cut it into strips after cooling, add a little salt and monosodium glutamate, and serve on a plate. It can be eaten frequently and has the effect of clearing away heat and dampness and reducing weight.
red bean porridge: 30g red bean and 50g japonica rice. Wash red beans and japonica rice, put them into the pot, add clear water and cook until the rice is rotten into porridge. Take it twice a day for breakfast and dinner, and take it for a long time to moisten, strengthen the spleen and lose weight.
oatmeal porridge: 50g oatmeal. Put the oatmeal into the pot, add water, when the water boils, stir and cook until soft. Or cook porridge with 250ml milk and oatmeal. Once a day for breakfast. It can reduce fat and lose weight. It is suitable for daily health care of patients with obesity, hyperlipidemia, coronary heart disease and healthy people.