today’s society is a society for the survival of the fittest, a society with high efficiency, fast pace, full of competition and challenges, and shopping malls such as battlefields changing rapidly. Under such a situation, how can human beings maintain psychological balance and make psychological and social in a healthy and good state. It is very necessary. So what measures should be taken?

1. People should have their own aspirations if they are not strict with themselves, but some people have unrealistic aspirations. They are beyond their ability and desire, and they will think that they are unlucky and depressed all day long; Some people do things, demand perfection, and are almost picky about their own requirements. As a result, the victims are still themselves. In order to eliminate frustration, you should set the goal within your ability. If you don’t work hard, you can surpass it with all your efforts, and your mood will naturally be comfortable.

2. Many people place their hopes on others. If the other party fails to meet their requirements, they will be greatly disappointed. In fact, everyone has his thoughts, advantages and disadvantages. Why ask others to meet their own requirements? This is imposing our own standards on others.

III. dredge our anger

when we get angry, many wrong things or gaffes will be done. Instead of regretting afterwards, we might as well exercise self-control in advance. For example, at the Lushan conference, Lin Biao, an ambitious man, became Minister of national defense, and finally broke the halberd and sank the sand. This is a great irony to policy makers.

IV. occasionally yield

a person who does great things should look at the big picture; Therefore, as long as the major premise is not affected, sometimes you don’t have to adhere to it too much in small places, so as to reduce your troubles.

v. temporarily escape

when life is frustrated, you should temporarily put down your troubles and do what you like to do, such as exercise, sleep or watching TV. When you are calm, you can face your problems again.

VI. find someone to talk about your troubles

burying all your melancholy in the bottom of your heart will only aggravate your distress. If you tell your inner troubles to your close friends, you will feel happy at once.

VII. Doing something for others

helping others is the foundation of happiness. Helping others can make yourself forget your troubles and determine your existence value; Instead of building your happiness on the pain of others, this is called falling into a well.

8. Do only one thing at a time

to reduce your mental burden, you should not do more than one thing at the same time, so as not to be exhausted.

IX. don’t compete with others everywhere

take others as the object of competition everywhere, making yourself often in a state of tension. As long as you are not regarded as an enemy, you will not be regarded as an enemy. So as not to panic all day and find the yellow spring.

10. Show goodwill to others

we are often excluded because others are wary of us. If you show your goodwill at the right time, make more friends and fewer enemies. The mood naturally becomes calm.